#15: How To Ask For Help In a Healthy Way

December 26, 2020

How do you do with asking for help?

I’m talking about anything from asking for a little bit of help like, “Can you pick something up for me at the store you’re already going to?” all the way up to that BIG ask of helping you to be accountable in a major life transformation you’re going after. There’s this really broad spectrum of things in life that we can be asking for help on, but no matter what we need help on, it’s the ask that generally trips us up the most.

I’ve learned a little bit about my listener over these past few months of podcasting and asking questions, and one thing I know is that you’re a highly motivated bunch. You have a sense of destiny on your life, you know you have a call on your life to do something great, and you love to see transformation happen!

What I’ve also come to know about you is that you’re likely to have a slightly “weird” relationship with asking for help because, like many of us, you’ve picked up the idea along the way that you have to do this stuff all by yourself. That somehow the quality of the success you’re going to see is somehow based on whether you were able to do it on your own or not.

But can I tell you something? That is SUCH a lie! We are human beings who were designed by God to live in community and to help one another. And so I believe this ability to ask for help, and to do it in a healthy way, is actually a massive gift from God to us . . . if we steward it rightly.

Has this concept of asking for help in a healthy way got you thinking? Are you interested to know four tips that can get you asking for help with less drama and stress, and more results you can feel good about? If so, I want you to grab your journal and a pen, and . . . Let’s Go!

What you will learn in this episode:

  • The two unhealthy reasons for why we may resist asking for help;
  • What the Bible says about responsibility and how to ask for help;
  • Four tips for asking for help in a healthy way; and
  • How a group environment can get you the help you want.

Scripture References mentioned in this episode:

Galatians 6:2-5 —
Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. For if anyone thinks he is something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself. But let each one test his own work, and then his reason to boast will be in himself alone and not in his neighbor. For each will have to bear his own load.

Philippians 4:6-7 —
do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Philippians 4:13 —
13 I can do all things through him who strengthens me.

John 14:16-18 —
16 And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper,[f] to be with you forever, 17 even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees him nor knows him. You know him, for he dwells with you and will be[g] in you.

Links to Things Mentioned in This Episode:

REVIVE Woman Community & Girls Night Out Event on January 8th

Are you looking for a collaborative of women to be a part of where you can be encouraged, equipped and empowered to make the sound God has placed on your life? Do you want to be sharpened and challenged to do it while following Jesus and walking out his word? If so, you’re invited to come join us in the REVIVE Woman Community over on Facebook.

The REVIVE Woman Community is a vibrant place where women interact with and support each other while being challenged to stretch and grow into all God has made them to be. If you’re ready to grow to the next level in your purpose and walk with Jesus, come join us!

And here’s something fun! We’ve got our next Girls Night Out event happening on Friday, January 8th at 7pm ET. We stream the event live into the REVIVE Woman Community group. Show up at 6:45pm for a chance to win giveaways as we do a raffle just before we step into worship. Click here to get more info on this upcoming night of awesomeness with the girls!

The Beacon 21 Day Reset & The Beacon Lifestyle Community

The Beacon 21 Day Reset — I’m hosting a mini-program starting January 10th designed to help you press the reset button on stewarding your health well. The Beacon 21 Day Reset is a set of 21 habits that work at one of the levels of your triune being — spirit, soul and body — to help you engage and see improvements in general health. We incorporate one habit per day during the 21 days and then we maintain the new habit plus the previously introduced habits for the remainder of the 21 days. It’s that simple. You can also choose to implement all 21 habits from day one for a bit of an “amped up” challenge! You do you, boo.

To join the challenge simply go to www.ericapyle.com/ResetNow. I believe this is the next best step in stewarding your health well so you are around long enough and strong enough to do and be all God created you for.

The REVIVE Online Campus Community & 2021 Bible Reading Plan

Are you looking to read through the whole Bible during the coming year? Well, WE ARE over in the REVIVE Online Campus Community and we’d love for YOU to join us! Just hop into The ROCC community group over on Facebook where you will find our 2021 Bible Reading Plan pinned right to the top of the group.

Take a look around and you’ll find that we host a Tuesday Night Bible Study and a Thursday Night Discipleship Call each week, as well. Are you wanting to go deeper in the word and in discipleship? Come check out The ROCC and see if this is a good place for you to find the community you’re looking for as you go deeper in 2021!

Erica co-leads a local church alongside her husband, Doug, in Tampa, Florida called REVIVE Church of Tampa. You can visit the church’s website for more information about who we are, what we believe and how we show up as the Church in the heart of West Tampa and beyond.

REVIVE Church of Tampa

REVIVE Church of Tampa streams services live on Friday nights at 7pm ET and Sunday mornings at 11am ET. You can find those livestreams on our church Facebook page:

Live Services – Fridays at 7pm ET and Sundays at 11am ET

If you’re interested in joining the online campus of REVIVE Church of Tampa, you are welcome to join our community group on Facebook where we offer weekly discussion around the Friday and Sunday messages as well as discipleship Zoom groups and the opportunity to host others in your home as you stream services. You can find us here:

The ROCC: REVIVE Online Campus Community

About this podcast:

Positioned to Prosper is a weekly podcast that covers the ins and outs of what it means to live a lifestyle of breakthrough and victory in your relationships, health, finances and beyond. Your host, Erica Pyle, is no stranger to jumping without the proverbial parachute while maintaining a firm grip on godly wisdom. A self-described slayer of pragmatism and a “walk by faith” kind of girl, Erica is an unabashed believer in the power of God to radically transform lives. Front-footed in faith as she offers straight-up truth, strategies, and wisdom for living victoriously, and equipped with her love for the word of God, her certification as a holistic health coach, and years of experience in personal finance and taxation, Erica is ready to help you get positioned to prosper.

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